Will you miss your chance? Just one more time!

She walked into the master bath and there was his housecoat draped over the bathtub. They never used the tub, both used the shower near by, but how many times had she asked him to hang it up. He was not a messy person. His side of the closet was always clean, and he never left his toiletries around his sink, she could not say that about her sink.

Funny, how after decades of marriage, it is the small things which irritate, not the big issues. Those big issues, raising the children, career choices, where to live, in-laws all seem to be resolved and the only fights are about the small issues.

Her girlfriend recently responded to the question, "How is your marriage?" with one word, "Comfortable". Comfortable she thought, I hope that is not what my husband thought of our marriage. Interesting, passionate, loving filled with hope and joy but not comfortable, is that all we should expect?

Why do people let "comfortable" slip into our marriages? Is it when we start taking our partners for granted? Is it when we stop challenging each other with new ideas? Is it when we tell the same stories again and again?  When those who divorce say we grew apart, do they really mean we grew bored with each other? Is divorce worse than living together without any love?

When you commit to "Loving on Purpose" you begin new habits which increase the focus you have on your partner. The romance continues after marriage because you are investing your time and energy into the relationship. Love is a verb and love grows the more you love. You will never be comfortable again thank God.

She walked into the master bath and there was his housecoat draped over the bathtub. She wished she had never asked him to pick it up, instead she would have told him she loved him one more time, before he died. Will you miss your chance?